Daily Spirit & Word: 707: Hot Juicy Gossip.
“When I Gossiped, I Sinned.”
“Oh LORD, help me to stop loving all that juicy hot gossip. Amen.”
Good morning my friends, do you know who the most generous people are? Gossips! Why? Because a gossip’s idea of generosity is to keep nothing to himself. HaHa… but seriously, gossip is not funny.
What is Gossip?
▶ noun: casual or unconstrained conversation or reports about other people, typically involving details which are not confirmed as true: “he became the subject of much local gossip.”
- a conversation about other people; an instance of gossiping: “she just comes round here for a gossip”.
- chiefly derogatory a person who likes talking about other people’s private lives.
▶ verb (gossips, gossiping, gossiped) engage in gossip: “they would start gossiping about her as soon as she left.”
You know the temptation don’t you?
When you know something about someone and you are just BURNING to share it. That’s OK if it builds another person up and makes them look good in the eyes of others, but what about when it’s harmful, when it’s going to make them look like a fool in the eyes of others?
“When a woman lowers her voice, and her friends eyebrows raise”… You know it’s GOSSIP…
Have you ever been engaged in a conversation about someone and had to stop talking because they walked into the room or close enough to hear?
Proverbs 17:4 (NLT)
Wrongdoers eagerly listen to gossip;
liars pay close attention to slander.
Our interest in GOSSIP reveals something dark within our own personality. Something is missing, we’re feeling insecure, we’re angry, we’re holding a grudge… There’s nothing as good as bad news about someone who’s done you a wrong: But there is, because the very fact that you are enjoying it, means you’ve not really forgiven them.
Prayer: Lord Jesus, All the times I’ve been eagerly listening as someone tells me some juicy news about someone else. Oh LORD! Help me to keep my head and be listening out to Your Holy Spirit always. Convicting? I’ll say… Lord You know my heart, and how so many times I’ve been offended by someone or something, then just waited and longed to hear the GOSS about them?…. Oh LORD, forgive my interest in slanderous news. Cleanse my heart from these kind of dark affections. Amen!
- Gossip: “Usually when the woman who is talking lowers her voice, the woman who is listening raises her eyebrows.”
- Gossip: “Live in such a way that you would not be ashamed to sell your parrot to the town gossip.” Will Rogers.
- Gossip: “I have Social Disease. I have to go out every night. If I stay home one night I start spreading rumours to my dogs.”
― Andy Warhol Andy was addicted to Gossip…
But WHY is Gossip So Tempting?
Why do sincere, Jesus loving, Bible believing, Gospel sharing, Christians, love to gossip about others?
The Bible gives us the answer: “The words of a gossip are like choice morsels; they go down to a man’s inmost parts” (Proverbs. 26:22)
Read that again:
“The words of a gossip are like choice morsels; they go down to a man’s inmost parts” (Proverbs. 26:22)
i.e. Gossip is a bit like the promise of the old Heineken Beer advert, it can reach down into places no other beer can reach… LOL
Gossip, according to God’s Word “goes down into a man’s inmost parts“… It tickles our fancy… It appeals to our flesh… It excites our desires.
1 Peter 4:15 (NIV) “If you suffer, it should not be as a murderer or thief or any other kind of criminal, or even as a meddler.”
A Meddler: is a back-seat driver, a busybody, nosey-parker, it’s a person who meddles in the affairs of others.
Did you know?
Did you know that a Gossip / Gossipper cannot enter into the kingdom of Heaven?
In God’s Eyes: A Gossip is a MURDERER… (Because you are killing someone else with your words).
“Since they thought it foolish to acknowledge God, he abandoned them to their foolish thinking and let them do things that should never be done. Their lives became full of every kind of wickedness, sin, greed, hate, envy, murder, quarrelling, deception, malicious behaviour, and gossip. They are backstabbers, haters of God, insolent, proud, and boastful. They invent new ways of sinning, and they disobey their parents. They refuse to understand, break their promises, are heartless, and have no mercy. They know God’s justice requires that those who do these things deserve to die, yet they do them anyway. Worse yet, they encourage others to do them, too.” (Romans 1:28-32 NLT)
Those who do those things; i.e. like GOSSIP, deserve to die… Ouch! Now that’s so serious.
Isn’t it strange? We always think that things like; murder, adultery, fornication etc.. are so serious that someone needs to be punished for doing them, but NOT Gossip… Yet God’s warning us all today about the seriousness of Gossip, Meddling and Slander.
- Have you ever Gossiped about someone?
- Have you ever Listened to Gossip?
- Have you ever Delighted in Gossip?
When we’re honest with ourselves, we’ll readily admit that we have. Let’s admit it to the Lord too:
Oh LORD! I have to admit that I have listened to gossip, many times, fool that I am, forgive me Lord.
Oh LORD! I also have to admit that there are times that I’ve started gossip, wicked person that I am, forgive me Lord.
Oh LORD! Please fill me to overflowing with your Holy Spirit, help me in the area of Gossip and Slander and Malicious talk. Amen!
Dr Dale A Robbins has a wonderful Biblical insight into the Dangers of Gossip.
Things to Remember about Gossip
- Gossip is as sinful as murder and will suffer the same consequences unless there is repentance (Rom. 1:32).
- God holds you accountable to your words (Matt. 12:36-37).
- The person who gossips to you about others, also gossips to others about you.
- Gossip & slander disqualifies persons for spiritual leadership (1 Tim. 3:11, Jas. 3:2).
- Gossip often masks as pretentious concerns for others.
- Gossip often thrives upon secrecy. Where secrecy is removed, gossip is hampered.
- Gossip always contributes to a problem and never to a solution.
- Gossip always distorts and exaggerates, and is never a reliable source of truth.
- Those who gossip & slander are not in right fellowship with God (Rom. 1:28-32).
- Those who gossip rarely get answers to prayer, and often face persistent, unexplainable problems (Psalms 66:18, Prov. 21:23, Prov. 6:12-15).
What to do about Gossip?
- If you have been a gossiper, confess this as sin and ask Christ to forgive you. “Repent” by turning in a new direction and surrendering your tongue to Christ, not to gossip or bad-mouth again (1 John 1:9, 1 Cor. 7:10).
- Keep your nose out of other people’s business.
- If you can’t say something good or encouraging about others, then keep your mouth shut (Eph. 4:29).
- Never criticize another person, except to their own face with an intent to help. Criticism can never be “constructive” if expressed to anyone else.
- If your “friends” start bad-mouthing others to you, stop them in their tracks — refuse to be a partaker of their sins (1 Tim 5:22).
- Avoid association with persons who gossip (Prov. 20:19).
- Expose works of darkness by reporting gossip to the pastor / minister that he may confront and offer correction. Gossip should be treated as any other vile sin (Eph. 5:11).
“I will watch my ways and keep my tongue from sin; I will put a muzzle on my mouth as long as the wicked are in my presence” (Psalms 39:1).
It’s my hope and prayer that you’re going to have an awesome weekend full of the joy of the Lord Jesus.
Stay close to Him every day and remember to ask for the filling of Holy Spirit. We all need it every day. Amen!