Learning to LOVE Like Jesus.

loving like Jesus, hating like Jesus

Daily Spirit & Word: 612: Learning to LOVE Like Jesus.

John 13:34-35 “A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. 35  By this all men will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.”

Good morning my friends, I was awoken by a weird sound in the bedroom, it was like a rat chewing through the carpet. We’ve had rats here before and my heart sank to think that they’re back again and in my bedroom. However, when I got up and began walking around the sound just got louder and louder, it was an old lampshade wobbling in it’s stand. My wee heart lifted again 🙂 LOL. Funny how we can be so mistaken and how our imaginations run wild at times.

The Word of the Lord tells us we’re being transformed into the likeness of Christ, that means we’ll begin more and more to think like Jesus as well; so I was right yesterday to say something about HATE, but I was also right in my thinking that my message would not get many people to LIKE it. It seems that just like rats in the bedroom, we have a natural aversion to the word HATE and we can be so mistaken as well.

Learning to LOVE like Jesus is a much more appealing title than “Learning to HATE like Jesus” isn’t it?

Non-the-less, LOVE is just as difficult as HATE for us to actually put into practice like Him.

Jesus perfectly fulfilled Old Testament prophesy concerning His Character, the character of the Messiah.

Luke 24:25-27 Jesus Explaining to the Disciples on the Road to Emmaus.
25  He said to them, “How foolish you are, and how slow of heart to believe all that the prophets have spoken!
26  Did not the Christ have to suffer these things and then enter his glory?”
27  And beginning with Moses and all the Prophets, he explained to them what was said in all the Scriptures concerning himself.

WOWzer! That must have been so awesome, to have Jesus Himself explaining how He is prophesied about in ALL the Scriptures: From Moses (Genesis, Exodus, Leviticus, Numbers and Deuteronomy) The first five books of the Old Testament are called the Book of Moses, and Pentateuch or The Law, but that doesn’t mean they were all written by the hand of Moses, they are about Moses and the Law and the Beginnings of all things, so generally ascribed the Books of MOSES. But it’s that statement that get me today, “How SLOW OF HEART TO BELIEVE ALL THAT THE PROPHETS HAVE WRITTEN”…

What does that OLD TESTAMENT teach us about LOVE?

When we’re learning to LOVE like Jesus, it means living the way He wants us to live.

In the Old Testament Moses permitted men to give a certificate of divorce to a woman, so that she’d be free to marry another man.

Deuteronomy 24:1-2 (KJV)
1  When a man hath taken a wife, and married her, and it come to pass that she find no favour in his eyes, because he hath found some uncleanness in her: then let him write her a bill of divorcement, and give it in her hand, and send her out of his house. 2  And when she is departed out of his house, she may go and be another man’s wife.

However, though Jews from that time up until the present day permit such divorce, it was NOT God’s intention from the beginning, because the Bible clearly reveals that God HATES divorce.

Jesus corrected the common misunderstandings and false notions concerning Divorce and LOVE.

Matthew 5:31-32 Jesus Teaching About Divorce (LOVE).
31 “It has been said, ‘Anyone who divorces his wife must give her a certificate of divorce.’ (Jesus is referring to the Dueteronomy 24:1-2 reading above).
32  But I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, causes her to become an adulteress, and anyone who marries the divorced woman commits adultery.”

Real LOVE: Means working through your problems. Not running away when the going gets tough, even in marriage.

I can’t tell you the number of times, since I’ve been a Minister, that people have come to me and declared, as an excuse or reason for them wanting to get divorced “We’re just not compatible any more”… Hello! this is wake-up time 🙂 NONE, Nobody, No-ONE is Compatible with another human being; we’re ALL created different. Just check your fingerprints, they’re all different. 😎  What they really mean is, “We’re not able to get along with each other any more”... or “We don’t really like each other like we did when we first got married”“romance has gone out of our relationship”

My friends, LOVE must be sincere: If we LOVE like Jesus wants us to (1 Corinthians 13) then we’ll be able to be in LOVE forever with our wife and husband.

We must say that Marital Unfaithfulness: Is not just ‘fornication’ or ‘adultery’: Marital unfaithfulness includes; Abuse, Harsh Treatment, Violence towards a woman or man. It’s being totally unfaithful when we’re abusive to our spouses. I believe that Jesus (God) permits divorce in such circumstances, when the abuse is ongoing or untreatable. God would never permit a man to be violent and abusive to his wife. We must LOVE our wife as Christ has loved the church: He gave His LIFE for us. (Ephesians 5:25).

However, the normal remedy for a loveless marriage is to learn to love more like Jesus (God).


I’ve known countless couples who’ve learned to love again and the feelings of romantic love have returned to their relationships. When we actually put into practice the teaching of 1 Corinthians 13 we become more lovable and attractive to our spouse. It’s like a miracle and it can happen in a very short space of time. The turnaround in attitude is totally awesome when we love like God loves. Every marriage or close relationship goes through difficult times when we find it hard to get along and like each other, but we can do it with God’s help. Feelings can change, don’t believe what the world tells you. Your marriage or friendship is NOT OVER just because at the moment you don’t feel it or feel the love. It will come back again when we follow God’s guide to loving.

Why does God hate divorce so much?

You can’t open an envelope without some bits of the paper tearing. You can’t divorce without someone getting hurt, even if your divorce is ‘amicable’ it hurts and offends God.

Malachi 2:14-16 God Explains Through His Prophet Malachi why He hates Divorce (lack of love). 
14  You ask, “Why?” It is because the LORD is acting as the witness between you and the wife of your youth, because you have broken faith with her, though she is your partner, the wife of your marriage covenant.
15  Has not the LORD made them one? In flesh and spirit they are His. And why one? Because he was seeking godly offspring. So guard yourself in your spirit, and do not break faith with the wife of your youth.
16  “I hate divorce,” says the LORD God of Israel, “and I hate a man’s covering himself with violence as well as with his garment,” says the LORD Almighty. So guard yourself in your spirit, and do not break faith.

  • It’s breaking faith with the woman (man) that you are meant to be LOVING.
  • It’s breaking apart something that the LORD has made ONE.

We may think, “we’re just separating”, “so many are doing it these days”, “so there’s nothing much wrong with divorce” … Well there is my friends, it’s taking something that God Himself has made and trashing it. Marriage is NOT just something we do to each other, God is involved in every marriage covenant between and man and a woman. He makes us ONE. There’s a mystical union that takes place when a man and a woman give themselves to each other in marriage.

It’s amazing, but when we learn to LOVE like the LORD, we’re also learning to HATE what He hates. He HATES divorce, He HATES evil, He HATES sin, but He HATES it because He’s so full of LOVE for those He has created and in that LOVE for us all, He doesn’t want us to get hurt or to hurt each other. When we get divorced it also brings a curse upon the land we live in. If only the Jews had kept reading in the books of Moses they’d have discovered God’s original intent in teaching about divorce and how much He hates it. Reading it in context you’ll discover what Moses was actually saying;

Deuteronomy 24:4 “then her first husband, who divorced her, is not allowed to marry her again after she has been defiled. That would be detestable in the eyes of the LORD. Do not bring sin upon the land the LORD your God is giving you as an inheritance.

If you are having a hard time LOVING each other, then SOAK yourself in God’s teaching about LOVE in 1 Corinthians 13 and all the chapters Jesus taught about loving. He even tells us to LOVE our enemies, how much more should we love those that we are in a close relationship with?

John 13:34-35 “A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. 35  By this all men will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.”

Let’s learn to LOVE like Jesus.

It is possible to learn to love like Jesus in the power of God’s Holy Spirit.

Have an AWESOME Wednesday with Jesus,


P.S. We’re going out tonight at 5.00pm to Share the Good News of Jesus on the Streets.

Meeting up at St Luke’s Church, West Norwood London.

Come, let’s go outside the camp and be like Jesus.